Ask men to dance
In the last few years, I had the opportunity to speak at company events - most often organized by D+I of the organization - about my story. At quite often, I was introduced to a (male) member of the board or executive committee, who was presented as the sponsor of the company's D+I activities.
At first, I felt honored. Over time, I also started to see a pattern. I spoke to the women's or LGBT+ network of the company which was sponsored by someone, who did not fit the criteria to be part of these networks.
In none of the companies I visited, I found a D+I network for white, middle class, heterosexual, able bodied men.
As I wrote above: We are all the sum of our life experiences and when we are looking to create equal opportunity workplaces, where everyone can share their different views and experiences, we are missing the facets of men.
And if men see themselves only as sponsors and patrons of D+I activities but standing beside or above of what is happening, no meaningful dialogue on eye-level can exist. Men can share a thing or two as well, about fitting a type, being sidelined for wanting to share a little more time with family, etc..
Dear men, please join us on the dance floor, so we can learn from each other and change our organisations together as equal partners.